Raising our children in the knowledge that life won’t always offer you a bowl of peaches is sometimes more difficult than what it seems.
You might remember couple blogs ago I wrote about my daughters one amazing teacher, Mr. James, who left to start another endeavor overseas. His replacement was the total opposite of Mr. James and on the first day back at school for Term 3, my very confident little girl, came home with tears streaming down her face. Her words echoed her aching heart and her mind set clear the path of what is to come. She felt manipulated and not taken into consideration.
I really had to step up to the plate to help guide her through her emotions of absolute despair and confusion. Her words framed the disaster of what the rest of the year would be like. You may say, surely the teachers actions could not have been this bad, but for a child who faces life with a pinch of anxiety and who does not enjoy change in any degree, the events that played out that day is major cause of upset for her.
My first point of action was to validate her feelings. She is allowed to feel confused and to ask questions. She is allowed every piece of anger and tears she shed. These emotions are needed to move forward and alchemise it towards change.
I’m jumping into big fancy words today so let me explain what does alchemise mean? Basically in short it is defined as a method to transform the nature or properties of something for instance an emotion, by a seemingly magical process. This might leave you more confused, but it basically comes down to you taking that emotion you feel, for example, hurt, confusion, despair or anger and leave it at the Cross where Jesus died for not only our sins but also all the injustices and imbalances we face each day. In return, with now having let go of those emotions, we allow Jesus to transform them into the very nature of His being. We receive the opposite of what we are experiencing. We receive Him. Our son-ship.
My next step in the process of receiving the gift of our transformed emotions, was to teach her to frame her day.
I asked her to close her eyes and imagine how she wants her day to go. The Word says, we will be blessed when we go in and blessed when we go out. And everything we touch is blessed. I guided her through this process of imagining how God has blessed her in such a way that whatever she touches will turn to gold. Wherever she treads will turn to gold. During this meditation she will see Fathers heart for her teacher and she will see through Gods eyes what he sees her teacher as. And she can create from that same place of love.
Guiding her further into envisioning her teacher as the kind, respectful, caring and understanding person that she has been created to be. And just as God created with spoken word, I helped her create her day by speaking what she wanted her day to be like.
By sitting with her in this manner I helped her to set her foundation to create her own destiny according to the desires of her heart and in her own environment. In Proverbs 23 vs 7 it says, for as he thinks in his heart, so is he (in behavior) – AMP
I have come to realize that our perception is key in how we experience events in our lives. We need to teach our children that our perception of an event is not always the truth. It is our only point of view of something. It does not include the other person’s view that again experiences the same version of their perception.
When we teach our children and ourselves to step back and see the whole situation from a different vantage point, which is the outside, we can then include everyone else’s point of view. From this advantage point we can then, with a sense of our God like identity, create an outcome that we wish and hope for. In this process of stepping out can we now see that a door is opened for healing and peace?
We allow communication to flow freely to bring a form of understanding and we allow grace to flow for each other involved in the disagreement.
By using this simple meditation technique, we become effective to practice rest and keeping our emotions in control. We are then not allowing our emotions to dictate the outcome but rather from a neutral point. Neutral even though we are part of the moment we are experiencing a difficult time.
I have meditated for quite some time now and I can see and feel the change in my life. I urge you to become still. Know God. Open your heart. Leave your head out of this. Because as the word says out of the abundance of your heart the mouth speaks. (Luke 6 vs 45 NKJV)
In my past experience, I can look back now and see where I have acted in my anger, or hurt and shame and it blew up into an uncontrollable run away fire which needed more work to heal from. Not just for myself but for the whole relationship.
I would like to encourage you to not dismiss meditation being “new age”. But rather as the word says, be still and know I am God. How do we become still? We become still when we stop asking God for something and rather behold His heart. Sitting on Fathers lap to see as He sees. Knowing His presence of peace. Resting in the assurance of His promise while listening to His voice and not our own.
So be still and KNOW…
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